I was sitting by the pool after a day of needing to find God’s peace through an unexpected heartbreak. I spent my morning in quiet time with the Lord and even embarked on a little hiking trip with the pup. Life was good. I was content. I didn’t allow the confusion from an earlier conversation drag me down.
But then there it was. A text message that allowed my once content and peaceful manner to change into a feeling of panic and devastation. Have you ever felt this way? In the blink of an eye, something happens that completely turns our world upside down and magnifies our insecurities. I found myself caught in a situation that I wanted to run from and I was quickly labeled by a woman that I barely knew and who barely knew me.
It only took three words. Three hurtful words.
Three words that stole the best of who I am and dangerously confined me in a corner of being distracted with the approval of others while my soul was gasping for the truth of God.
It was one of those situations where someone is blamed for the lack of honesty on another’s part. Unfortunately, in this situation, I was the one being blamed. As I said, this woman doesn’t know me. She doesn’t know my heart and we haven’t had a conversation in YEARS. We don’t do brunch, we don’t go on walks and we certainly do not go to church together. Yet, this woman was causing me to believe in lies about who I am and I was quickly becoming unglued.
Two dangerous things can happen when we become unglued in a situation where we feel attacked:
1. We believe in the lies and it consumes our thinking
2. We attack back
I knew that this woman did not know me and as upset as I was with her words, I had to remind myself that I did not know her either. As much as that label was crushing me, who would I be to label her back? Grace given when it is least deserved is the answer for our bitter, resentful, and angry hearts.
I knew I wasn’t what this woman was saying about me but I was allowing this lie to break my true identity. I was in tears and my heart was hurting. If you have ever been in a place of heartbreak from the label or rejection of others, I wish we could chat over an iced coffee and I could remind your heart that I too have felt what you may be feeling now. This feeling of being labeled tugs at us and brings us to a place where the enemy wants to keep us.
But the beauty, my sweet friend, is that no person’s rejection will ever exempt you from God’s unwavering love for you. PERIOD. No question mark here.
I knew this but it was difficult to feel it.
It is painful to be labeled and it can leave us feeling isolated and alone. I know this is a hard place to be. But God is the best in these situations. When you feel this way and you’re praying through your feelings, invite God in. Tell Him that you want to live in a place where you feel so loved by Him that you don’t have to beg others for their love or approval. Once we realize that God’s approval is the only one we desperately need, we begin to let go of the labels and rejections from others. The more we invite God in, the less we feel left out by others.
My heart hurt that day but I also learned a lot from those three words. God is always testing us and His main priority is to have us live in a life fully with Him. When we are full of God, we can let humans be humans. Unfortunately, that means we will get our hearts broken and even hurt the hearts of others, but God is not afraid of our sharp edges. He isn’t afraid of our mistakes. And He doesn’t push us away, He pulls us in close.
Remember that the voices of shame, rejection, and hurt aren’t as loud as His voice of love, acceptance and peace. God is inviting us in and the more we are with Him the less we allow the words of others to determine our circumstances.
Today, let’s choose to love inside of scorn, reject or label another person. Let’s choose to lift each other up and remember that we are all God’s children.
With Grace and Love,